Here are the contents of this month’s Family Newsletter:
Barb, Kate, Scott, and I took one of the most difficult steps we have ever taken as a family. We decided to publically talk about the sexual abuse that Kate and Scott experienced when they were young children.
In May 2009 the four of us, along with Scott’s precious wife, Jennifer, went into a private studio at Focus on the Family and spent over two hours talking about a chapter of our lives that had been hidden for the last twenty-five years.
We had previously discussed the event in writing in my book Bryson City Secrets. It was this abuse that led us to leave Bryson City back in 1985.
Why would Barb and I (and, why would Kate and Scott [and Scott’s wife Jennifer]) want to discuss such a private thing – such an intimate family secret publically?
Here’s what I wrote in Bryson City Secrets:
Our children were exceptionally close. They could talk together about almost anything. They were each other’s counselor and confidant. They could talk for hours and were surprisingly accurate in predicting what the other would think or say about nearly any subject.
So to have such a deep and painful discussion as a family didn’t seem unusual.
What impressed Barb and me most during our Thanksgiving visit was our children’s maturity and knowledge of biblical principles. We would each take time to share our insights about the difficulties of our past and how, in each case, God had turned apparent disease and disaster into a blessing for each of us.
Kate’s Cerebral Palsy and surgeries, Scott’s many accidents, our financial downturns, and many other family events had taught and matured us. We could see the good and the blessing that eventually developed from each situation.
As a family, we were convinced the same would come from this time of talking so openly about something we all would rather have forgotten. Finally we could talk no more. We were physically and emotionally spent. We gathered around each other to have an evening prayer.
In bed that night Barb and I held each other close for a long time.
The next morning was Thanksgiving Day. We shared a glorious Thanksgiving lunch at a restaurant in the gargantuan lobby of Union Station near the Capitol. After our meal, we practiced a Thanksgiving tradition for our family—we each named something for which we were thankful.
Around and around the comments went—for many, many minutes. We laughed and smiled and occasionally shared some tears as we each recalled all the things for which we could truly give thanks. But most of all we were thankful for each other and for the many gifts bestowed on us by our Creator.
Kate later wrote to us, “It was good for us as a family to discuss what had happened and its effects on us. I knew the Lord could bring wholeness and healing to our family. I knew that in some ways our family journey was just beginning.”
The two-day Focus on the Family Daily Radio Broadcast was titled “Finding Healing from Sexual Abuse” on Monday, February 1 and Tuesday, February 2. Information about the broadcasts can be found here:
Now, we’ve decided to discuss our pain, and our healing, publically. And, we prayed that it would be of help to many families across North America who heard this broadcast. Next month, I’ll share some of the amazing feedback we’ve received that helped us realized that our prayers were answered.
If you’re interested, you can get an autographed copy of Bryson City Secrets, or any of the other Bryson City books) here. You can also read sample chapters of most of my books here.
There are some possibilities brewing, but no updates for this month.
Update on Time Scene Investigators: The Influenza Bomb
My second novel, a sequel to Time Scene Investigators: The Gabon Virus, is scheduled for release in June. I wanted you to be the first to see the new cover for the book. I hope you like it as much as I do:
In addition, we’re beginning to receive reviews of the book. Here’s the one that’s on the cover:
Here are a few others:
His Brain, Her Brain enters 7th printing
We are so excited to have been informed by Zondervan Publishers that His Brain, Her Brain continues to sell well and bless those who read it. As such, it has just had its 7th printing – and in less than two years. We are ecstatic about this news and hope that if you have not yet read this book about how to relate to the opposite sex, that you will consider ordering a copy.
Events of the last month
Feb 2-8: Barb and I traveled to Kissimmee, FL, to visit with friends. From 2/4-6 I attendedg an AMA meeting. It was great to spend time with old friends – and, most especially, the time I spent with my mentor for the last twenty-five years, Bill Judge.
Feb 12-13: I flew to Austin, TX, where my friend Bill Peel and I will taught a conference at Covenant Presbyterian Church on “Workplace Grace: Becoming a Spiritual Influence at Work.”
The conference went extremely well. About the conference, one attendee wrote, “You two are fantastic presenters with this valuable content. Your information is helpful and was well received. You demystify a process that is a part of our charge as Christians. You really clarify that the harvest is not the primary focus of most Christians but that the soil preparation and sowing is a natural flow of loving relationships. This makes it much easier for each participant to take those tiny steps into the adventure of sharing our faith with people we see every day.”
Feb 24: Barb and I will be attending a Life Network Board Meeting in Colorado Springs. This was one of the most difficult board meetings we have ever attended, but we’re grateful to serve with an amazing group that handled the challenge with grace and wisdom.
Mar 1-4: Barb and I will take a few days off for vacation and a ski trip to the Copper Mountain Resort in Colorado.
Mar 4-5: I will fly to Washington, DC, to participate in a National Health Policy Forum at Georgetown.
Mar 12-13: I will fly to Minneapolis, MN, where my friend Bill Peel and I will be teaching another conference at Wooddale Church on “Workplace Grace: Becoming a spiritual influence at work.”
Mar 17: I’ll travel to Denver to present a Grand Rounds at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center on the topic of “Spiritual History as a Component of Quality Patient Care.”
Mar 29-31: I will fly to Tulsa to be a Visiting Professor at the In His Image Family Medicine Residency, while Barb will fly home to visit with her family.
You can get more information on many of my upcoming events here.